I was once at a student conference where during a heated vote someone said “In with ANGER out with LOVE!!” in an exasperated slightly huffy manner, complete with eyeroll. I’m not sure if she was trying to calm herself down or order the others around us to do so. Anyway, it didn’t work! The vote was tight and there’s nothing like being 21 years old and ‘believing’ to make for a tense night on the floor of a national students conference.
Ahh memories, back in the ‘real world’ of work, I find myself sometimes thinking of this moment (ok, often a lot), when everyone around me is ‘battling’ hard and arguing their case on what a process document should be called or how to describe a ‘problem’ without using the word problem itself (challenge/opportunity/moment of clarity etc) when it all seems a bit ridiculous. But I’m a fan of passion and I have definitely fought hard on getting directives re-worded from ‘you have to do this’ to ‘lets all work together on this’. Language is important after all. So I get it, mostly.
There are of course moments when we (I) lose complete perspective.
Sometimes its that feeling you get when you are talked over again for the 1000th time that day, or when you talk through a presentation and get asked to make it ‘pretty’, or when you provide a report and get asked to add in sentences that are already in it (grrrr).
No one is perfect. Bosses aren’t perfect, colleagues aren’t perfect, you and I are not perfect. So sometimes I think of the quote above and think today I’m just going to love everyone and everything because its better than hating, picking and moaning.
Now I’d love to hear from you!
How do you deal with perfectionism?
Do you expect everyone around you and yourself to be perfect?
And, how do you find ways to dial down the impact of this thinking on your life?