The one thing I’ve found that’s helped me feel happier and (mentally) healthier in the workplace, is sticking to my own style and not adopting others’ styles as my own.
Sometimes this is hard but I’ve realised that by sticking to my own style I’m a lot less drained, tired and grumpy.
I have a quiet voice and mostly a very feminine style. I like to be reserved when getting to know people and hear out other people’s ideas before speaking my own.
Sometimes I can be aggressive when I ‘know I’m right’ and other times I can be soft and quiet.
I just go with my own flow on things.
I don’t speak over people, I like to take my time to consider all sides of a debate and I like to include everyone in a conversation (and I do get aggressive on letting quieter people into conversations and making sure everyone’s voice is heard.)
I can have a masculine side when I think I have solutions and can be very adamant at times (you know, when I’m right).
I’m happy with these contradictions because its easier being myself than trying to be perfectly consistent and even tempered all the time.
Do you agree?
Does it take bravery to be soft, yourself and stay in your truth at work?