How quickly do you label a colleague, direct report, peer or boss an idiot? After one or two stuff ups, poorly chosen words or a funny facial expression?
I remember a mentor of mine once saying: “Why are aussies SO critical all the time?”
It seems like any minor problem will be taken as sufficient reason to write someone off entirely.
The most rewarding relationships are those that we invest in, when we truly get to know someone under a lot of different conditions.
In 2017, I discovered how rewarding seeing past someone’s reputation was and taking the time to develop a strong relationship could be. But it took TIME and openness from both sides. It meant having open conversations about things that bothered me and it meant me being open to things that bothered him. It was worth the effort.
Is there someone you have written off?
What would happen if you tried again to build a positive relationship?
What are you missing out on by being closed off to this person?
What are the differences between boundaries and letting relationships grow organically?
Why does this statement feel revolutionary in 2018?
Why do women need to be saved and men be our saviours?
Could this line ever read: “And the princess and prince lived happily ever after in their own big castle with all their own money and they took care of themselves and each other. The end.”
Is women’s happiness a story of being saved by a man vs saved by herself?
How does a man support a women who is 100% independent?
What if a princess wants another princess to move in with her?
I love these quotes, they are gung-ho and make me think big. They also seem to sit very much in the same story – prioritising material wealth with no mention of romantic, emotional or spiritual abundance. Yes, we need a roof over our heads but we also need SO MUCH MORE!
Yes, we need independence but I for one want lots of love, romance and a partner in my life.
Are love and independence mutually exclusive (I hope not)?
Does a feminist re-make of fairytales exclude love?
If you could write your own fairytale in one or two sentences, what would your happily ever after story be?
And the successful business women, lived happily ever after, in her own lavish townhouse, travelled everywhere lots, loved and was loved lots, felt like she belonged all the time, had her own cleaner, and shared all her favourite stories with a gorgeous independent man who loved her just as she was, and she took care of herself and all her abundance (money, spirituality, health) and always wore fabulous clothes and red nail polish…. and just really had a great time always! The end! 🙂
Unravelling shoulds and focusing on want has been a challenge I have set myself over the last 18 months. It’s been a really amazing journey and has led me to write a book and become a life coach while also increasing my satisfaction at work.
It’s also been painful because I say NO to a lot of things and sometimes other people don’t get it (the focus, the drive, the saying “NO”.)
When you have followed your dream, what has happened for you?
What is your number one tip to staying in your truth?
My own top tip is be really clear on your WHY. It really takes the pressure off an uncomfortable situation when I know this is where I need to be right now to get to where I am going. Knowing my why – helping women progress (personally, professionally and in society as a whole) helps keep me going when I have to decline another social invitation so I can work on my business, study or write a blog post. It keeps me centred.