Secret #2 How to Get What You Want
1. Ask for advice
Emulate, look around you at work and in your life, and look to find people that are just getting stuff done.
Take inspiration and copy how they’re going about getting what they want done.
Ask for their advice.
Apply that advice to how you go about getting goals and actions done.
Test out lots of different approaches until you find something that works for you.
If you want to start studying again, test out studying on a small course and work out what kind of schedule you need if you’re going to combine full-time work with part-time study.
This is something I have done – I found ways to use lunch times really efficiently. Even 20 minutes can be used effectively if you plan it out well. (I also sometimes do work at 4:00am in the morning because for me that’s when inspiration strikes – scarily!).
Start off with something small and then work to level up as your skills and confidence grows.
Try not to overwhelming yourself with a full-time course straight off.
Find experts in what you want and get their advice.
Listen to some really good podcasts to get inspiration (I’m a podcast junkie and can recommend Marie Forleo, The Good Life Project, Melissa Ambrosini, Tony Robbins, Becoming Fearless, For the Love of Money, The Amber Lilyestom Show, The Priestess Podcast.)
It could be going to workshops (like my goal setting workshop in May – hint!) or it could be going to meetups, networking events or organising your own.
Find people that you value what they have to say and who have the wisdom and experience to share and learn from.
4. Plan it
Make the time to plan out what you want and create space and time to practice getting it. I guess this is an expectation-setting thing as well. If you’re someone that has got out of practice of getting what you want done, then you’ve got to practice. And it’s going to be a bit crap for a while, because you’re not going to be very good at it. So it’s really about understanding that you’re in that practice/learning phase and not to be too focused on doing things perfectly.
You don’t need to be awesome and an expert at this stage because you can grow into that, right?
5. Create a Learning Log
The other thing is, what I really like doing is when I’m really struggling with something I keep my own kind of learnings log. I did this particularly when I started doing a lot more networking which I found a little bit challenging at times, because it was a very full-on extroverted thing to do. Although I love people after a full day of work I actually just found big networking events a bit overwhelming (sooo manny people!!).
I created a roster of events, and then I’d take down notes on which ones I really enjoyed and got a lot of energy from, events that I didn’t, events that really helped me from a career perspective, and one’s where I met people that I loved being with. Then, I could really focus my time and energy on the networking events that I knew I really enjoyed.
I kept those notes because those events could become a bit of a blur. You don’t have to making some big life decision or change to take deliverable and careful action like keeping a log.
You can use this for something where you want to tweak or change something.
By taking notes and taking deliberate action and practicing, you’ll embed these changes more quickly and easily.
Final bit of advice
If I chose only one of these things to do it is to get advice from the people around you. There’s nothing like saying to people, “Hey, I’m trying to do this, what do you think?.”
I did this a lot last year. I was like, “I’m going to write a book, help!.” And so the people around me really supported me in writing that book. They gave me advice. They lined up interviews, they let me take extra time off work. It felt like my people were on the journey with me. So don’t think that you just have to present yourself as some perfectly done, formed, “Hey I’m an author now.” Let the people around you go on the journey with you and let them help you. Be open to receiving that help and remember to say YES even if its not ‘perfect’ help.
I have a goal-setting workshop coming up in May, so would love you to be there. It’s a live event, and it’s for up to five women (there are 4 spots left). It’s being held at St. Martin’s Café in Brighton. I really encourage you to join in if you’re in the area as it would be so lovely to meet you and hear your story.