Chose your own fairytale

Is this rebellious?

The future?

The now?  

I have an explosion of thoughts when I read this:

  • Why does this statement feel revolutionary in 2018?
  • Why do women need to be saved and men be our saviours?
  • Could this line ever read: “And the princess and prince lived happily ever after in their own big castle with all their own money and they took care of themselves and each other. The end.”
  • Is women’s happiness a story of being saved by a man vs saved by herself?
  • How does a man support a women who is 100% independent?
  • What if a princess wants another princess to move in with her?

I love these quotes, they are gung-ho and make me think big. They also seem to sit very much in the same story – prioritising material wealth with no mention of romantic, emotional or spiritual abundance.  Yes, we need a roof over our heads but we also need SO MUCH MORE!

Yes, we need independence but I for one want lots of love, romance and a partner in my life.

Are love and independence mutually exclusive (I hope not)?

Does a feminist re-make of fairytales exclude love?

If you could write your own fairytale in one or two sentences, what would your happily ever after story be?

My version:

And the successful business women, lived happily ever after, in her own lavish townhouse, travelled everywhere lots, loved and was loved lots, felt like she belonged all the time, had her own cleaner, and shared all her favourite stories with a gorgeous independent man who loved her just as she was, and she took care of herself and all her abundance (money, spirituality, health) and always wore fabulous clothes and red nail polish…. and just really had a great time always! The end! 🙂

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There’s bravery in being soft

There's bravery in being soft
There’s bravery in being soft

 

The one thing I’ve found that’s helped me feel happier and (mentally) healthier in the workplace, is sticking to my own style and not adopting others’ styles as my own.

Sometimes this is hard but I’ve realised that by sticking to my own style I’m a lot less drained, tired and grumpy.

I have a quiet voice and mostly a very feminine style. I like to be reserved when getting to know people and hear out other people’s ideas before speaking my own.

Sometimes I can be aggressive when I ‘know I’m right’ and other times I can be soft and quiet.

I just go with my own flow on things.  

I don’t speak over people, I like to take my time to consider all sides of a debate and I like to include everyone in a conversation (and I do get aggressive on letting quieter people into conversations and making sure everyone’s voice is heard.)

I can have a masculine side when I think I have solutions and can be very adamant at times (you know, when I’m right).

I’m happy with these contradictions because its easier being myself than trying to be perfectly consistent and even tempered all the time.

Do you agree?

Does it take bravery to be soft, yourself and stay in your truth at work?

 

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