Breathe it all in, love it all out

Breathe it all in, love it all out
Breathe it all in, love it all out

I was once at a student conference where during a heated vote someone said “In with ANGER out with LOVE!!” in an exasperated slightly huffy manner, complete with eyeroll.  I’m not sure if she was trying to calm herself down or order the others around us to do so.  Anyway, it didn’t work! The vote was tight and there’s nothing like being 21 years old and ‘believing’ to make for a tense night on the floor of a national students conference.

Ahh memories, back in the ‘real world’ of work, I find myself sometimes thinking of this moment (ok, often a lot), when everyone around me is ‘battling’ hard and arguing their case on what a process document should be called or how to describe a ‘problem’ without using the word problem itself (challenge/opportunity/moment of clarity etc) when it all seems a bit ridiculous.  But I’m a fan of passion and I have definitely fought hard on getting directives re-worded from ‘you have to do this’ to ‘lets all work together on this’. Language is important after all.  So I get it, mostly.

There are of course moments when we (I) lose complete perspective.

Sometimes its that feeling you get when you are talked over again for the 1000th time that day, or when you talk through a presentation and get asked to make it ‘pretty’, or when you provide a report and get asked to add in sentences that are already in it (grrrr).

No one is perfect. Bosses aren’t perfect, colleagues aren’t perfect, you and I are not perfect.  So sometimes I think of the quote above and think today I’m just going to love everyone and everything because its better than hating, picking and moaning.

Now I’d love to hear from you!

How do you deal with perfectionism?

Do you expect everyone around you and yourself to be perfect?

And, how do you find ways to dial down the impact of this thinking on your life?

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Why I wrote ‘I’m Ready Now!’

I’m Ready Now! is available to purchase for Kindle and Kindle Reader on Amazon.

I always thought keeping a well run, no-surprise team with happy staff members was the way to progress in my career.

All it was, was the way to keep my job.

All I looked was competent.

Without anyone outside my boss knowing my achievements, I never got offered roles. I always had to ask for an opportunity.  Yet, I could see people around me being offered roles. How did that happen? Why were they being offered a role and I wasn’t?

So, I started to take a different approach.

I began to think of myself as my own PR Manager.

I began to talk openly about my challenges, ask for guidance, talk about my successes and talk about what I’d like to do. I looked for opportunities to create my own role or tweak my role to what I wanted to do and to play to my strengths.

When opportunities are presented I now have a ‘just say yes’ approach and work it out later.

Earlier in my career, I used to change jobs when a difficult situation seemed like an immovable blocker. Usually just when support was gathering around me.

To get to the other side of big problems demonstrates perseverance, courage and aptitude. It also demonstrates to senior leaders that you are able to ask for help and you’re able to learn and stick at it – you don’t let yourself or your team drown.

It takes time to build credibility.

And, there have been times I’ve needed to sound the alarm and ask for help and say things like ‘I’m overwhelmed’.

This has not led to the death of my career.

The important thing I’ve learnt is that  sometimes the philosophy of ‘I can do it on my own’ is not useful in the workplace.

Independence is great, isolation is not.

Be open to support. Everyone has troubles in the workplace – the crazy project, the poor performer, the bully to deal with.

I’ve learnt that by being patient, staying calm (mostly) and waiting things out (with limits) has led to greater support and acceptance of who I am and how I am as a leader.

If I can do this in a senior role in IT, you can too.

This is why I wrote ‘I’m Ready Now!’ to help provide a set of activities to build up your confidence, sense of direction and deliberately plan out your next promotion.

Subscribe to get the free My Promotion Plan and tool to help plan out your next promotion today!

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I’m Ready Now !

Beatrice Crocker
Beatrice Crocker

Want a promotion ?

Keeping asking for opportunities and not getting anywhere or worse getting the wrong ones ?

Too good in your current role to be ‘allowed’ to move up ?

Completed all the training, got great feedback, ticked every box but told ‘you’re not ready yet’?

If you answered ‘Yes’ to any of these questions, then this book is for you. Full of practical strategies, how to guides and step by step instructions on how to gain a promotion and move mountains without ever having to ‘tick’ a box again.


This book isn’t about fixing you. Nice girls can get the corner office and you need the right strategy to get there.

Diagnose the real reason for not getting that promotion and find out ways for overcoming, getting around or marching straight through obstacles to your next promotion.

No statistics, no graphs, just step by step instructions to help you work out the best way to get a promotion quickly.

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