Breathe it all in, love it all out

Breathe it all in, love it all out
Breathe it all in, love it all out

I was once at a student conference where during a heated vote someone said “In with ANGER out with LOVE!!” in an exasperated slightly huffy manner, complete with eyeroll.  I’m not sure if she was trying to calm herself down or order the others around us to do so.  Anyway, it didn’t work! The vote was tight and there’s nothing like being 21 years old and ‘believing’ to make for a tense night on the floor of a national students conference.

Ahh memories, back in the ‘real world’ of work, I find myself sometimes thinking of this moment (ok, often a lot), when everyone around me is ‘battling’ hard and arguing their case on what a process document should be called or how to describe a ‘problem’ without using the word problem itself (challenge/opportunity/moment of clarity etc) when it all seems a bit ridiculous.  But I’m a fan of passion and I have definitely fought hard on getting directives re-worded from ‘you have to do this’ to ‘lets all work together on this’. Language is important after all.  So I get it, mostly.

There are of course moments when we (I) lose complete perspective.

Sometimes its that feeling you get when you are talked over again for the 1000th time that day, or when you talk through a presentation and get asked to make it ‘pretty’, or when you provide a report and get asked to add in sentences that are already in it (grrrr).

No one is perfect. Bosses aren’t perfect, colleagues aren’t perfect, you and I are not perfect.  So sometimes I think of the quote above and think today I’m just going to love everyone and everything because its better than hating, picking and moaning.

Now I’d love to hear from you!

How do you deal with perfectionism?

Do you expect everyone around you and yourself to be perfect?

And, how do you find ways to dial down the impact of this thinking on your life?

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This one thing will get you to your next promotion quicker!

If I choose one role to focus on, I’ll cut off all my options!

Will you ?

 

Really ?

 

One of the aspects of the book that I really struggled with was saying : “choose one role to focus on!”.

 

I struggled because at the time I was reviewing the progress of my own promotion plan. I really wanted a promotion but was getting annoyed and frustrated on how long it was taking. Some extra projects, which I had happily spent a lot of my own time working on, hadn’t paid off in the way that I had hoped.  And, I realised I had a choice – wait another year for promotion or go elsewhere ?

 

The vibe was good, my word of mouth was good yet I was getting impatient.  I had to acknowledge my momentum had slowed because I had taken time out to write my first book. My energy was directed elsewhere.  I knew that this had delayed my promotion, reduced my visibility and meant I hadn’t had a chance to really line up the key decision makers to make the decision that I wanted.

 

There’s nothing like taking my own medicine to make my bottom lip stick out. Not fair banana bear,  I wanted to write a book and get a promotion all in the same year!!

 

So I did look elsewhere – I talked to my recruitment contacts, I networked and caught up with old friends.  But something didn’t feel ‘right’. Inside me was saying – that’s the wrong way, that isn’t even what YOU are recommending !!

 

Just stay!!!

 

So I stayed and within a few months a new senior manager started and I took the opportunity to ask the tough questions :

 

I want a promotion this time next year  and will this role make this happen  ?

 

New Senior Manager said ‘YES’.

 

I also asked him ‘will you back me for that promotion?’

 

And again he said ‘YES’.

 

So I decided to stay.

 

Lesson learnt!  Momentum is powerful because it builds confidence, it also builds random oppourtunities. Being ready to ask the right questions at the right time when that opportunity arises (a new role, new boss, secondment etc) WORKS!

 

Choose one role and you will have that opportunity to create momentum for your next promotion!

 

Now, I’d love to hear your thoughts.  Do you agree that focussing on one role will make it easier for you to get a promotion ?

 

What is one action you can take this week to get one step closer to getting your next promotion?

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I’m Ready Now !

Beatrice Crocker
Beatrice Crocker

Want a promotion ?

Keeping asking for opportunities and not getting anywhere or worse getting the wrong ones ?

Too good in your current role to be ‘allowed’ to move up ?

Completed all the training, got great feedback, ticked every box but told ‘you’re not ready yet’?

If you answered ‘Yes’ to any of these questions, then this book is for you. Full of practical strategies, how to guides and step by step instructions on how to gain a promotion and move mountains without ever having to ‘tick’ a box again.

Dubious?

This book isn’t about fixing you. Nice girls can get the corner office and you need the right strategy to get there.

Diagnose the real reason for not getting that promotion and find out ways for overcoming, getting around or marching straight through obstacles to your next promotion.

No statistics, no graphs, just step by step instructions to help you work out the best way to get a promotion quickly.

Want that promotion now? Read this book!

Available via Amazon Kindle

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